Should You Be Banned From Relationships?

Should You Be Banned From Relationships?

Ok, damn it. This is just not funny anymore.

I’m going to do something I’ve never done before and hope you’ll bear with me, as I rant and then get to my request.

For God’s sake, people! If you can’t handle yourself with even the smallest bit of integrity in relationships and through an “ending”, if that is where you wind up, then PLEASE don’t get into one, until you can. Ok?

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In just one week you can feel more confident, rock relationships, heal heartbreak, be empowered and clarify your boundaries! Join me and my colleague, friend, and client Sadie Nardini as we reveal 7 powerful Steps to Revolutionize Your Relationships which can set you free from cycles of drama and despair, get you crystal clear about what you want and how to get it, and help you bust roadblocks to your greatness.

For $99 you get lifetime access to all 23 lectures - over 3 hours of content to help you break free of old patterns, limiting heartbreaks, and those negative stories you keep telling yourself to become an authentic and fierce you living and loving in integrity

What are you going to get from this amazing 7 day course?

  • Over 23 lectures and 3.5 hours of content!
  • 7 CORE CONVERSATIONS: sessions with Sadie and Barb, discussing 7 crucial steps you must take to have a powerful new relationship with yourself and others.
  • 7 REVOLUTIONARY LOVE 'DEEPEN THE WORK' missions from Barb on how to deepen the inspirations and ideas you've gotten into real transformation.
  • 7 REVOLUTIONARY LOVE POWER YOGA MEDITATIONS WITH MUDRAS: Sadie leads you through a meditation, with hand mudras to charge them up, that you'll use in your toolbox for a lifetime to get grounded, set boundaries, bust heartache, clear out heavy emotions, and so much more.

Click here to learn more and register now!

Rockin' Your Relationships | Oct 17, 2014 | Albuquerque, New Mexico

Rockin' Your Relationships | Oct 17, 2014 | Albuquerque, New Mexico

I'm in Albuquerque, New Mexico working on my next book and I would love for you to join me for a very special conversation "Rockin' Your Relationships" - at Casa Flamenca this month: October 17th, 2014 from 6 pm - 8 pm. We'll talk about what it takes to have a "conscious" relationship AND I'll answer all of your burning questions about love, life, and relating. Whether you are single, coupled, doing this well or completely confused about the next steps you should take to a happy fulfilled love life, this is the place you want to be! Grab a friend or your partner and come join the fun. There will be champagne, desserts, maybe even some salsa dancing to get you loosened up!

I'll also be giving away some exclusive goodies including an hour long coaching session, valued at $250 and more.

Cost: $20 for one, $30 for any two coming together (bring a friend!!).

RSVP: Space limited to 30 people. Click here to reserve your space now.

Rockin' Your Relationships | Oct 17, 2014 | Albuquerque, New Mexico



Want Love? It's Simple. Breathe.

Want Love? It's Simple. Breathe.

The month of February in general, along with Valentine's week, always brings a rush of new clients eagerly looking for coaching in the hopes of  attracting more love into their lives. They want love, but their New Year resolution to create real change in this particular area has already gotten pushed to the bottom of the list and then Valentine's Day stares them squarely in the face.  Oh, yah, that. Whether you are coming out on the other side of a tough breakup and believe that the way to get past the pain is to "jump back in", are dating, wondering how to "sort and screen" wisely or are in a committed relationship or marriage, but can't imagine spending another year flatlining,  it all comes down to one thing: breathing.

Yes, breathing.

After spending 3 hours last Sunday with Gurubachan at his  BREATHE gathering, I am more convinced than ever before, that our breath is what will carry us to the love that we are seeking.

This is the place to start.

I have meditated myself for years, encouraging my clients to sit quietly and include this practice in their lives as a way to connect more fully to their own inner wisdom as they navigate change.  I was reminded though,  in a powerful way, that intentionally slowing down our breathing long enough, and regularly enough, so that we can bypass our crazy, frenetic mind is the way to begin training our thoughts.  It's not just sitting in the silence.  Most of my friends and clients have heard me say for years, "Your mind is not your friend!"  And while we know this, experience on a daily basis that chattering, fearful voice in our head that seems hell bent on scaring us to death out of protection and understand detaching from it is helpful, we don't take is as seriously as we need to.

Slowing down the breath, daily, can give you the ability to calm those constantly rising fears, soothe the nervous system and hear the voice of your Soul speaking lovingly of it's deepest desires, allowing a new sense of vitality to rise from within.  Imagine how this can support your journey toward more love in your life, as the fears, confusion and blocks are released!

Still experiencing deep hurt from a past relationship, but would love to meet someone new?

Slowing down the breath each day will do two important things -  it will help you go around the "stories" your mind keeps replaying so that you can feel the peace and healing that is being offered to you.  It will also unblock stuck hurt that breathing 20-30 times a minute, like we normally do when we are stressed, keeps in place.

Scared to try dating again because you've attracted unhealthy relationships in the past and aren't sure you can set clear boundaries?

Breathing slowly and allowing your physical body to come into a deep rhythm helps you tap into your true power, your core energy and strengthens every single aspect of yourself (mind/body/spirit)  You will have greater clarity and set boundaries with less difficulty when you ground in this way.

Longing for the loving feeling you had with your partner when you first came together?  Not sure whether you are "falling out of love' or whether there are things you could be doing to ignite that spark again?

Practicing each day, to slow down the breath, will help you access the deepest part of you and hear your Souls Divine whisperings.  Love is love.  We don't fall in and out of it.  When we slow ourselves down, our thoughts follow and our hearts respond.  From this inner sanctuary, we hear where to grow, what is calling for healing and how to expand.  From that place we are given ways to "show up" in our lives that create more loving connection,  acceptance and bring lightness, ease and actual joy to all of our relationships!

I offer you this breathing meditation that I was gifted with again this last week, in the hopes that you will join me for 11 minutes each day, to create profound love in your life~

Self love - Love of others - Love as service ~


MEDITATION - stress relief & clearing the emotions of the past

Effects - increases vitality, stress relief, clearing emotions of the past

Posture - Sit in a comfortable meditative posture with a straight spine, chin in and chest lifted

Hand position - Put your hands in front of your chest with the tips of the thumbs touching each other and each of the fingers touching the corresponding fingers on the opposite hand.  There is a space between the palms.  The fingers are pointing upward.

Breath - Breath 4 times per minute:  Inhale through nostrils 5 seconds, hold 5 seconds and exhale through nostrils 5 seconds.

Time - 11 minutes or until you feel relief

*Thank you and blessings to Gurubachan


I would love to hear from you in the comments about how your practice is going and what positive effects you are seeing!  Big love,




Revolutionary Breakup = Revolutionary Love!

Revolutionary Breakup = Revolutionary Love!

REVOLUTIONARY LOVE~ It's not just the cool, new name of my business and FB page.

My burning passion.....the thing that drives me during the day and at times, keeps me staring at the ceiling at night, is figuring out ways to help people really, truly "revolutionize" the way they love!

Which means this ~  how you move "OUT" of love.....whether that painful transition is handled like a trooper with the most integrity and Grace that you can muster or whether you succumb to drama, mud slinging and plant  yourself in victim-hood, is your call.

Loved and lost

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The Challenge to Revolutionize Your Love

The Challenge to Revolutionize Your Love

We are being called on to evolve like never before. Evolve, not just change a little, which is going to require a greater level of participation and honesty. And that means people like you and me need to become strong and brave and make a commitment to do whatever it takes to stay close to our "edge." The edge moves us out of our comfort zone, challenges us to be more and opens doors to growth, passion, understanding and happiness.

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