The month of February in general, along with Valentine's week, always brings a rush of new clients eagerly looking for coaching in the hopes of attracting more love into their lives. They want love, but their New Year resolution to create real change in this particular area has already gotten pushed to the bottom of the list and then Valentine's Day stares them squarely in the face. Oh, yah, that. Whether you are coming out on the other side of a tough breakup and believe that the way to get past the pain is to "jump back in", are dating, wondering how to "sort and screen" wisely or are in a committed relationship or marriage, but can't imagine spending another year flatlining, it all comes down to one thing: breathing.
After spending 3 hours last Sunday with Gurubachan at his BREATHE gathering, I am more convinced than ever before, that our breath is what will carry us to the love that we are seeking.
This is the place to start.
I have meditated myself for years, encouraging my clients to sit quietly and include this practice in their lives as a way to connect more fully to their own inner wisdom as they navigate change. I was reminded though, in a powerful way, that intentionally slowing down our breathing long enough, and regularly enough, so that we can bypass our crazy, frenetic mind is the way to begin training our thoughts. It's not just sitting in the silence. Most of my friends and clients have heard me say for years, "Your mind is not your friend!" And while we know this, experience on a daily basis that chattering, fearful voice in our head that seems hell bent on scaring us to death out of protection and understand detaching from it is helpful, we don't take is as seriously as we need to.
Slowing down the breath, daily, can give you the ability to calm those constantly rising fears, soothe the nervous system and hear the voice of your Soul speaking lovingly of it's deepest desires, allowing a new sense of vitality to rise from within. Imagine how this can support your journey toward more love in your life, as the fears, confusion and blocks are released!
Still experiencing deep hurt from a past relationship, but would love to meet someone new?
Slowing down the breath each day will do two important things - it will help you go around the "stories" your mind keeps replaying so that you can feel the peace and healing that is being offered to you. It will also unblock stuck hurt that breathing 20-30 times a minute, like we normally do when we are stressed, keeps in place.
Scared to try dating again because you've attracted unhealthy relationships in the past and aren't sure you can set clear boundaries?
Breathing slowly and allowing your physical body to come into a deep rhythm helps you tap into your true power, your core energy and strengthens every single aspect of yourself (mind/body/spirit) You will have greater clarity and set boundaries with less difficulty when you ground in this way.
Longing for the loving feeling you had with your partner when you first came together? Not sure whether you are "falling out of love' or whether there are things you could be doing to ignite that spark again?
Practicing each day, to slow down the breath, will help you access the deepest part of you and hear your Souls Divine whisperings. Love is love. We don't fall in and out of it. When we slow ourselves down, our thoughts follow and our hearts respond. From this inner sanctuary, we hear where to grow, what is calling for healing and how to expand. From that place we are given ways to "show up" in our lives that create more loving connection, acceptance and bring lightness, ease and actual joy to all of our relationships!
I offer you this breathing meditation that I was gifted with again this last week, in the hopes that you will join me for 11 minutes each day, to create profound love in your life~
Self love - Love of others - Love as service ~
MEDITATION - stress relief & clearing the emotions of the past
Effects - increases vitality, stress relief, clearing emotions of the past
Posture - Sit in a comfortable meditative posture with a straight spine, chin in and chest lifted
Hand position - Put your hands in front of your chest with the tips of the thumbs touching each other and each of the fingers touching the corresponding fingers on the opposite hand. There is a space between the palms. The fingers are pointing upward.
Breath - Breath 4 times per minute: Inhale through nostrils 5 seconds, hold 5 seconds and exhale through nostrils 5 seconds.
Time - 11 minutes or until you feel relief
*Thank you and blessings to Gurubachan
I would love to hear from you in the comments about how your practice is going and what positive effects you are seeing! Big love,